Couples often dread the process of divorce because they fear the possibility of bitter fights over who gets what and heated arguments over child-related matters. Yet, every day, there are couples who divorce with minimal stress and little to no contention. If you are planning for divorce (or have been putting it off out of fear), the following information can help you do the same.
Put the Process in Perspective
Divorce is an emotionally complex issue that is often full of feelings of betrayal, failure, hurt, and/or anger. Yet, the process itself - the actual dissolution of your marriage - is a legal one. Your assets and debts are valued and divided. Decisions about your child’s best interests will made. Granted, there may be emotion attached to those assets, and any decision about your child can be emotional. This is understandable, and to be expected. The point here is that the goal is not to “win” divorce. Instead, divorce is about compromise and ensuring that everyone walks away with their fair share.
Let Your Inner Circle Provide Support
Sometimes, divorcees struggle with letting others be there for them during the divorce process. They might fear ridicule, or they may feel like they are burdening their family and friends. Yet, when those same individuals do reach out, they often find that their support circle is more than happy to be there for them. So, even if you are hesitant to reach out, try letting others be there for you. You might be surprised at just how much it helps.
Take Extra Special Care of You
Having a support system can go a long way in helping you cope during divorce, but grief is an individual process - one that you have to work through on your own. Take extra special care of yourself during this time. Do something you enjoy. Rekindle your love for a hobby you abandoned or try something completely new. Eat healthy, exercise, and get plenty of sleep. Get therapy or counseling if you think you need it. Be patient on the hard days and celebrate the good ones. Little by little, you should start to feel better.
Consider Mediation or Another Alternative Dispute Resolution Option
Mediation and other collaborative law options are not right for every couple, but there are those that may benefit greatly from such options. Designed to encourage compromise, mediation and other collaborative law options typically give parties more control over the divorce process. Parties can also spend more time working on an agreement that everyone can live with. As a result, all parties (including children) usually experience less stress during the divorce.
Have an Attorney Do the Talking for You
Even if you manage to keep things in perspective, you may still battle with some difficult (and sometimes even irrational) emotions. You can give yourself time to deal with those feelings by letting an attorney handle the legal aspects of your divorce. An attorney can also handle the negotiation process and legal communications. This reduces the amount of contact you have with your spouse and decrease your chances of saying something you might regret.
Our Naperville Divorce Lawyers Can Help Reduce Stress in Your Divorce
If you want to reduce the stress in your divorce, contact Sullivan Taylor & Gumina, P.C.. Our seasoned Naperville divorce lawyers are dedicated to helping you successfully navigate through your divorce. We will handle all the legal details of your case, protect your rights, and provide you with compassionate services, every step of the way. Call 630-665-7676 and schedule your confidential consultation with us today.