The New York Times recently published an article that discusses a unique living arrangement called “nesting.” Nesting is when the child of a separated or divorced couple remains in the family home while the parents take turns staying with the child. This arrangement is not always easy for the parents, but can be beneficial to the child. There are different ways nesting can be managed. Here are a few of the most common scenarios:
Parents Maintain Separate Residences
In this situation, the parents maintain individual, separate residences in addition to the family home. For example, while mom is with the child at the family home, dad is at his apartment and when dad is with the child, mom is at her apartment. The obvious downside to this particular arrangement is cost. Maintaining three separate residences can be difficult financially, but it could be used short-term until the child has had an opportunity to process the divorce.
Parents Stay with Family or Friends
Another possibility is keeping the child in the family home while the parents take turns staying with friends or family members. This may be difficult to maintain for a long period of time, but it is an option. Such close contact with family or friends could actually be beneficial to someone going through divorce.
Parents Share a Residence
A third option is keeping the family home while the parents share another residence on a rotating basis. The divorcing couple would not be in the residence at the same time, but their belongings would share the same home. This option probably demands the most cooperation from the divorcing parents, but can be a viable solution for those that can manage it. It is less expensive than keeping three residences, and there is no burden to family or friends.